Self-confidence.. having it is not as easy as it might seem, hey. Self-confidence is a gradual and learnt quality but you don't need to wait until you've lost 5, 15 or 50 more kilos or until you finally get that one wonky tooth fixed, or anything else. Self-confidence is about understanding your identity and loving yourself through imperfections (at least that's what I interpret it to be).
Let me introduce you to 19 year old Clair. Woah girl. Yep, while most 19 year olds were reppin the latest roxy bikinis I was developing a personality.
The reason I'm showing you this photo is to show the young women who view my blog that you might believe that you're not beautiful or you don't like your figure or that you don't think you're very pretty, I was once there too. Like me, you might've had people in you life even let you believe these lies but you need to know that you are beautiful, you are loved and you are worthy and deserving of whatever you want in life. When I was 19 I was confused about who I was as a young woman, I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life (kinda still working on that to be honest haha) and I was a massive attention seeker who had no self-confidence.
I tried to find confidence in the attention of men or friends who were probably pretty terrible for me and yeah, that didn't really work. I think that overtime I realised that other peoples validation would never make me feel better about myself and by allowing my identity to be what other people thought of me was never going to help me feel better about myself. I started living in my identity as a Christian and focused on what God thought of me and dug up some self respect and belief.
So here are some things that helped me become more self-confident
- tell yourself you're beautiful every day
- do something nice for yourself every day. Put on some cute lipstick, take a bath, put of your favourite song and have some alone time.
- if you're having complexes about a specific body part, DECIDE to love it instead. (e.g. I really hate my knees, but I tell myself every day that I love my knees and I don't care if my skirt doesn't hide my chunky knees, no one else notices. I love my knees)
- surround yourself with valuable, honourable people
- believe that you're the most beautiful person in the room
- walk with grace and your head held high
- get rid of negativity
- give someone a compliment
- believe in yourself
- know that who you are as a person is more important than how good your highlighter is or how good your butt looks in those jeans #personalityonfleek
- ALWAYS stand up for yourself, now I don't mean go and get in a fist fight, but sometimes the best defence is no defence, either ignore the haters or treat them how you want to be treated.
So beautiful people, I hope this has helped you a little bit along your journey to great self confidence. I would love to know how you achieve self-confidence and what helps you! Let me know below.
Love you xx